March 4th, 2004

Neko (lofulah)

Friends-Of.

Personally, I don't think this is an issue at all, but apparently, it is. And I know there are people out there who compulsively check their friends vs. friends-of lists, and although I admit I think they're silly, I don't think any less of them for it. It's like me and collecting anime, for the pointlessness of it all.

So, the issue being debated is: Should users be allowed to "edit" their friends-of list?

[ http://www.livejournal.com/community/lj_biz/217808.html ]

:D if you don't want to think, go read [ link 1 | http://www.livejournal.com/users/sparklescamp/255477.html ] and [ link 2 | http://www.livejournal.com/community/lj_biz/217808.html?thread=4596688#t4596688 ] and agree with them. Then copy and paste them into the poll and vote not to change it (first option).

Background:
- Friends-of lists the people who list you as friends. Unless you list them as friends, they will not see non-public posts. Currently, one can hide the Friends-of list, if it bothers people.

The issues so far:
- People are bothered when they see that they are the friend of "LOT_OF_ANIMAL_SEX" or something stupid like that that someone made up to annoy aforementioned People with.
- People want to remove those people they hate.
- People fear stalkers.

My points/points I agree with:
- It doesn't matter. Just because they list you as their friend, doesn't mean you are their friend. People need to understand this, and it should be explained to them.
- Changing it will result in even more problems... there are problems enough caused by the friends list... now people will start checking their friends to make sure they're listed, etc. OCD.
Neko (lofulah)

google@?="sitting Shiva"

Queried google for "sitting Shiva" since my knowledge in that area is rather lacking...

And because I really don't foresee needing these links more than once (I should remember this information. Hopefully.), I'll leave them here instead of in my bookmarks... Perhaps someone else may find them useful.
[ Shiva | http://judaism.about.com/cs/deathandmourning/f/shiva.htm ]
[ Ask the rabbi: Shiva Manners | http://judaism.about.com/library/3_askrabbi_o/bl_simmons_shivamanners.htm ]
[ My Fist Shiva: Understanding What to Expect Helps | http://www.interfaithfamily.com/article/issue44/horowitz.phtml ]
[ Shiva Background | http://www.benjamins.ca/Static/shiva_background.htm ]-probably the most useful of the four...
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