April 12th, 2006

Neko (lofulah)

Via Matt Adler

On Apr. 12, 2006, at 1:17 AM, Matt Adler wrote:

Hey y'all! So I'm basically e-mailing you guys to see if you would be interested in forming a sort of RM gay alumni group. I have been thinking ever since I graduated (and subsequently came out) that there is a lot of work to be done at RM to make it a safe and comfortable place for GLBT students. I think one important step in this process is to organize RM grads to get active in initiatives to improve the situation at our former high school. Whether we were out or closeted or in denial or all of the above at different times, we all know what it was like to go through high school facing degrees of invisibility, harassment, and discrimination. In addition to brainstorming our own initiatives (one idea I had was to institute a voluntary "Safe Zones" training program for sympathetic teachers), we can probably serve as valuable mentors for gay students currently at RM facing similar challenges. If nothing else, for some students it'd probably be nice to know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel and give them advice on GLBT life in college. In any case, I gotta split, but I hope this is something you guys are interested in. I'd like this network to be what we as a group want, not just what I envision, so please pass this message on to other GLBT grads and certainly give me the contact info of anyone else you think might be interested. I should be home from school around May 10th- anyone up for meeting for coffee around then? Thanks for taking the time to read this and please don't hesitate to contact me.

With love and Phallic (I mean ummm Rocket) Pride,
Matt Adler

That was interesting. But yeah, if anyone wants his e-mail / contact info, throw something at my e-mail address.

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Neko (lofulah)

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A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.

Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all. And if they do, they have no case if they are raped while incapable of making a reasoned decision.

instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, repost it. It's that important
That being said, I'd say it'd still be important to pick up some knowledge of self-defense though. If not just for the sake of having the knowledge, maybe it'll get you out of a pinch someday.

...granted, I have pretty little knowledge of self-defense. Will probably just scream like a girl, aim for the genitals, and run like crazy. Granted, that's what you're supposed to do, from what I've read and heard. At least the running part. :: nods::