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LGBT Ally training~
So I attended an asian LGBT Ally training session today. Twas.. interesting. There was, as we concluded, a really small number of Asians who'd identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. (eh? did I not spell that right? ..."transgender" is a misspelled word.. it suggests "transponder" -.-;; )

The ice breaker activity was the most memorable. We were given a piece of paper, told to split it up into 8 pieces. For two pieces of paper, we were told to write down two objects that were important to us. The next two were to be two people that were important to us. Then two activities that were important to us. And finally, two roles that were important to us.

Then we were asked to crumple up two and throw them away.

And then we had the person to our right randomly pick one. That too, was thrown away.

And finally, the group 'leader' walked around and randomly took pieces and threw them out.

This was equated to the losses that one might experience coming out.. and I thought it did a really good job of that.

Other thoughts/ideas/points of note included:
-the major lack of asian LGBT. This was attributed to community factors, as well as the fact that, as asians, sex really isn't talked about much. I never got the bird-bees talk, and I definitely self-educated myself. (Hah, "What are you talking about?!? This is research! Not pr0n!")
-the fact that there is a.. sense of "normality" on campus. And desire to avoid change. And that "normality" fell towards christian, white, middle-class. And for asians, them Christian small groups. Those things are massive, yo, despite being called "small groups". (rather, when they band together...yeah.)

Randomness for today.

"I hereby knight you... Sir Girls-Run-Alot."

I don't know. It just struck me that.. girls seem to run a lot on campus. Lots of female joggers, anyhow. And somehow, I added Sir in front of that, and was highly amused for a good 5 minutes while biking to lunch. Yeah, don't think anyone noticed the silly asian boy grinning his face off while biking down Green street.

The reason why you shouldn't post random news pranks online.

I'm amused.

Oh, and in other google news (this is has been out for a while. Just waited a day+ to see more articles confirm it), it appears google _has_ been ordered by the federal judge to release their data. Poo. The article's in a number of places, including washingtonpost.com.

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shanrina From: shanrina Date: March 16th, 2006 03:17 am (UTC) (Link)
We had to do a very similar activity when I did LGBT training. It's weird...when you think about it, you wouldn't think it would have much effect but when you sit down and do it...well, I was pretty upset by it.
ibneko From: ibneko Date: March 16th, 2006 03:42 am (UTC) (Link)
It just struck me as really effective to get the idea across. I wasn't all that upset, since halfway through, I realized what he was doing ^^;; and also, the things I listed... wasn't really stuff I could lose by coming out.

Megan H. She's already out herself.
Karen N. Maybe I'd lose her. Although she's been around us enough to be accepting, I hope. Besides, I definitely fall on the straight-bi side of the spectrum, so I doubt it would bother her much.

Learning. Really hard to take that away. Unless coming out results in something, like solitary confinement...
Laughing. Can't take that away either.

iBook. Ok, so they take it away? I'll buy another computer.
Brain. Again, something hard to lose for coming out.

Friend. I dare say, almost all of my friends should be openminded enough. A number are out themselves, and the rest, well... :: shrugs:: I'll lose some, possibly.
Brother. I don't know. I _think_ my sister would accept it? I know she reads my journal, but I doubt she's actually given serious thought about, "what if my brother brought home a guy, and proclaimed that they were going to get married?" sort of thing.
shanrina From: shanrina Date: March 16th, 2006 05:08 am (UTC) (Link)
Ours was a little more specific...we wrote down 6 specific things (close friend growing up, close friend today, dream for the future, can't remember the others) and then there was a story to go along with it and at specific times someone went around and took away a specific card.
tinkleneko From: tinkleneko Date: March 16th, 2006 10:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well, I hope you're not gay. I do have gay friends, one of whom is my "brother"/ close friend, but you? that's slightly disturbing... Nevertheless, I probably could grow to accept it. Although... if you and your husband start making out in front of me, I will still be disturbed. (I've seen that in school already... lesbians)
Hm. Are you trying to say "Does my little sister love me enough that whatever I do as her brother, she'll still love me? No matter how odd or terrible it is?"? Because I'll tell you right now, that besides being tragically biologically and permanently connected/related to you (=D), I _do_ love you enough to be that person. Like... yeah. I'll always be here for you if you need me. I'll always be at your side supporting whatever you do. I'll listen and care and try to be whatever you want me to be like (... I guess... As in, if you want me to stop doing something, I will stop. etc.)
jaiwithani From: jaiwithani Date: March 16th, 2006 03:29 am (UTC) (Link)
...I missed the part where you wrecked marriages and destroyed the very fabric of the American family.

Seriously, good for you. :-) You win.
ibneko From: ibneko Date: March 16th, 2006 03:46 am (UTC) (Link)
Heh. Somehow, that just prompts an image of a giant dinosaur stomping on cookie cutter houses......
littpiski From: littpiski Date: March 16th, 2006 06:22 am (UTC) (Link)
That's why I love Berkeley. Not that there's THAT many gay asians, but gay asians are definitely visible. There's even a club that's mostly gay asians, too.

Good for you for going to ally training. I think i'm going to go to transgender ally training next week.
ibneko From: ibneko Date: March 16th, 2006 07:00 am (UTC) (Link)
Mmmm, yeah, one of the "guest speakers" was a Berkeley graduate, and she mentioned as much. Would be nice to get such a club started here, but... I don't know. As someone else noted, we just haven't reached the critical mass - we had, what... 3 undergrad asian guys there tonight, myself included.
littpiski From: littpiski Date: March 16th, 2006 06:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Haha, I meant like a dance club. But yes, I am a facilitator for Cal Queer and Asian=).
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